The New Feminist: Ho or Strong Woman?

Yes, you know what I’m talking about.
You've seen that young woman walking down the street with a tight low cut shirt, tight pants and sexy heels. In the 1960s and 70s this was the image of a submissive woman who’s life revolved around men or trying to get one rather than building her own career. But now, that sexy blond with big breast who is dancing in the club with no bra and little shirt is a PR Rep. So, what is she? It all depends on how she carries herself and knows her self worth. Many older feminist don't understand that what defines a woman today is not how she dresses. But the double standard of a woman versus a man who is permiscious is still very much part of society's moral code.

Pictures above: Left, Cuban doctor international volunteer in Bolivia; Right, Cover of a porn movie.

Having been a socialist political activist for many years, one topic that brought tension between the older women and younger was the way we dressed. Anything showing cleavage, too much legs, or tight pants always raised eyebrows. When I started out, men that hit on me while I was trying to talk politics with them would annoy me. After a while, I learned to ignore it and move on.

Sexuality: Weakness or Strength?
Let’s take a test. If you are wearing a low cut shirt and man stares at your cleavage. Do you:
a) Feel bad
b) Like it
c) Say to yourself: Look but you can’t touch, but I can touch you if I want

If you answered “a” you are being plain ridiculous. It is your body, feel good about it. We women have been blessed with beautiful bodies, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. If you answered “b” than your just a flat out ho. You can like it, but at the end of the night if you are depressed because not enough men said to you piropos, then you need a life. If you answered “c” then you are a certified New Feminist. You wear what you like without shame, but you have your own accomplishments in life to worry about. You are also not afraid of your sexuality and you use your stuff for your own pleasure. You can like it, but your world is bigger than attention your breast or behind receives.

For centuries, women have been molded to believe that their sexuality is their weakness. We are wives, whores, mothers and for centuries didn’t have the right to vote, own property or share the many professions men labored. But that has changed, and very quickly over the last 100 years.

But in recent years, what has also changed is how you interpret a strong woman. The main dilema individuals face is the double standard question with women: a man is player while a woman is a slut. What many of the older feminist don’t understand that it has nothing to do with the way you dress but how you carry yourself. In the 1960s, during the women's movement, the rebellion was to look and dress as men do. Many women cut their hair short, dressed in slacks or jeans, and acted tough. But now confident and working women are not trying to look like their male counterparts. I think many women in the 1960s felt that dressing manly would hide their female body that bings about sexual attraction.

Women, just be yourself and dress however you like. Maybe to work you wear pants but at the club you were a huchie skirt. It is alright as long as you never sell yourself short.

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